I have been thinking about the issues of sexual predatory behaviors, in work places and abusive marriages, and how it relates to our beliefs around money. Sexual abuse has the ability to keep us captive in a bad circumstance because we choose to believe that the person abusing us is the main source of our money flow. We take a job, find out the boss wants sexual favors and we stay because we believe that this job is the best (or only) job we can get. We believe that if we let go of the job, or the spouse, we will be destitute and on the streets.
Why do we choose to believe this?
I believe there are several factors. First off, we don’t believe in our inherent worthiness. We have been given messages, subtle and not so subtle, our entire lives that we should act small because we are small. For the record, this is a FLAT OUT LIE.
Another reason: we haven’t learned that we are the source of our own abundance.
We haven’t had enough practice actively and consciously creating our own experiences. We haven’t realized that everything that shows up in our life, good or bad, comes from the thoughts we choose to believe and act on (based on the things we came here to learn but that’s another post). It’s that simple.
And, that hard. Changing our beliefs requires looking at our life from a different perspective and then continuing to chose that perspective throughout each day even though our brain wants to insert the habitual beliefs that we have been thinking our whole lives. We have to practice the new thought, over and over, just like we would practice learning a new language, by speaking it over and over, even though we are butchering it to death when we first start out.
We learn a new language of self-love.
And we need to ask ourselves, ‘Why do I want to believe that old thought? What am I gaining from that way of thinking?”. Many times, we can’t answer these questions because we don’t know why. We don’t realize that we picked up the belief that “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush” because our grandmother used to say that to us when we were little. We have lots of these unconscious beliefs floating around in our brain and we act them out every day in our lives, even when they aren’t working for us.
I invite you into the realm of conscious creation, my dear friends. I invite you to figure out the beliefs that are keeping you stuck in situations that you wish you weren’t in. And then, I invite you to create new beliefs and habits that create the beautiful life you came here to experience. If you’d like help with that, shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. This is something I’m getting really good at and I’d love to share my tricks with you.
In love and light,