People talk a lot about how we need to love ourselves more and how self-esteem is one of the most important things to develop but I’ve never heard anyone talk about the real reason why it’s so hard to do that. The truth is, in order to love yourself, you first have to like yourself and most people aren’t living in a way that allows them to do that.
Let’s take a step back for a moment and think about the traits you admire in your most badass friend. If you don’t have one of those, think of someone you think is super cool and make a list of all the qualities that you most admire about them. For me, that list would include: generous, honest, fearless, kind, shows up even when things get tough, fun to be with, brings out the best in others, lives her passion, expresses her true self freely and I could go on, but this is a great start.
Now, I want you to think about if any of these traits that you so admire about your friend could be said about yourself. To use my list, I would ask myself: Am I generous, honest and fearless? Do I bring out the best in others? Am I living my passion? etc.
If the answer is no to any of those questions, I know I’m not living in a way that makes me want to look myself in the eyes in the mirror. I admire those traits because those are things I truly value. And if I get real with myself, the no answers tell me where I’m not living up to my values.
You hear the phrase, ‘Speaking truth to power’ thrown around a lot right now in the media, but I’m more interested in speaking truth to ourselves. We hold the power to shape our own worlds but most of us distract ourselves from this fact so that we don’t have to do the things that would help us become our most authentic self. I know because that was me. But I grew tired of making excuses. I wanted to be the person I knew was inside me, the one wanting to be all those things, the one to receive self-love and self-respect.
I encourage you to be honest with yourself. What would you have to do to earn your own respect? What traits would you need to develop in order to be your own badass best friend?
That’s the blueprint for your best life.
And if you need someone to help you get there, I’m your girl. I’ve walked that path. Just give me a shout in the coaching tab.
In love and light,